You can be mended even when your relationship isn’t flawless...
Ever wonder why mothers and daughters have such a difficult relationship and how to even talk the same language?
Mended gives you conversation starters to speak life into your relationship with your mother or daughter. Discover powerful words that usher in healing for wounded hearts and rebuild, restore, and reconcile your connection. Set new patterns for your relationship and family line going forward.
Through Scripture, prayer and practical applications, you can...
- find common ground and put your relationship ahead of your differences
- learn what you can say when you don’t know what to say
- grow closer when you do hard things together
- resist trying to control or change each other
- share your heart but not shove it on the other
If you have a rocky history with your mother or daughter, you don’t have to continue those patterns of brokenness. God wants to mend your heart and make you whole. Sometimes we don’t get the mending we want when we’d like it. But you want to get to a place where you can say, “My heart is mended even if my relationship isn’t yet, and I am okay regardless. My peace is not dependent on the other person.”
When you put God above the magnitude of the hard in your lives, you will not be unthreaded. The hard may get harder, but you are mended to God. Your heart toward your mother or daughter should not be pulled apart but made tighter.
"If you have ever thought, 'I wish I knew how to really talk to my mom, to my daughter,' this book will be a gift. So often we allow years to pass, stuck in misunderstanding and brokenness simply because we don't know what to do or what to say. Mended will give you a place to begin."
Sheila Walsh, author of It's Okay Not To Be Okay
ENDORSEMENTS FOR MENDED
"Mended: Restoring the Hearts of Mothers and Daughters will show you how to create an incredible, God-honoring legacy for your family. This is an amazing resource for anyone who desires to deepen their mother-daughter relationship in a Biblical, healthy, and healed way."
New York Times best-selling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries
"What a precious opportunity to write a book with your momma! Maybe you don’t think so because the relationship with your mother is more toxic than tender. Blythe and Helen weave godly practical suggestions to move the relationship with your mother or daughter from harmful to healed. In a beautiful conversation, the duo teaches the reader how to sow seeds of peace rather than discord by pointing her to the Author of reconciliation, Jesus."
Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and author of Wait and See: Finding Peace in God’s Pauses and Plans and Yes, No, and Maybe: Living with the God of Immeasurably More
"Blythe and Helen have crafted a truly special and unique book for mothers and daughters. Whether your desire is to mend a strained and broken relationship, or simply to make a strong and healthy one even better, you will find yourself enlightened, encouraged, and hopefully expectant about the future through the pages of Mended. I highly encourage mothers and daughters to enjoy this beautiful book together."
author of Mom Set Free
"Their mutual delight in one another coupled with their mutual respect is alluring. They share what they have learned with a winsome, wise and generous hand. This is an invitation to follow Jesus into the heart realms of desire, brokenness, hope and healing. Such goodness awaits."
New York Times bestselling author of Captivating
"It’s difficult to put into words the joy I feel about this book. I cannot think of two women who embody transparency, courage, strength, and wisdom more than Blythe Daniel and Helen McIntosh. I have been privileged to journey alongside these two and have been blessed by their love, respect, and compassion flowing like a beautiful river between them. Be careful; because, as you read this book, you’ll surely get soaked in their special kind of wonderful and your own mother/daughter relationships will surely be saturated in the love of Jesus—the mender of our souls."
LATAN ROLAND MURPHY
friend and author of Courageous Women of the Bible
"Mothers and daughters make such interesting duos! Helen McIntosh and Blythe Daniel are no exception. They have bared their souls and brightened our relational paths with their co-writing of this soul-searching, life-instructing book. They walked through fire as they wrote and the results have emerged as pure gold. If you have a mother, daughter, daughter-in-law or really, any woman you care about, this book is for you"!
friend and author of Courage for the Unknown Season, Fool-Proofing Your Life
"The mother/daughter relationship is a beautiful gift and yet a complicated one. It can be both a place where we are most comfortable and vulnerable and yet, at times, feel as though we are walking a tight rope to maintain it. Blythe and Helen in the practical guide of Mended: Restoring the Hearts of Mothers and Daughters give us the tools we need to navigate nurturing and restoring this most important relationship. It will be a resource that I will refer to over and over again."
Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and author of Make Your Move: Finding Unshakable Confidence Despite Your Fears and Failures
"I vacillated back and forth between mother and daughter as I read Mended: Restoring the Hearts of Mothers and Daughters -- learning as a mother, absorbing as a daughter. These words can unlock those of us who have felt stuck within either role, unsure of how to find a new way out of old patterns. God’s heart for healing families lies within these pages."
author of Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet and Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World that Loves to be Noticed
"In Mended: Restoring the Hearts of Mothers & Daughters, Blythe and Helen gently move us through the mending process by sharing practical tips steeped in grace and compassion. Their ability to clearly articulate how to restore your relationship is woven throughout. The words in this book will equip you with the tools you need to heal the relationship with your mother or daughter as you look to Jesus for wisdom and discernment. Blythe and Helen paint a beautiful picture of hope and help for mending your relationships."
author of Parenting beyond the Rules: Raising Teens with Confidence and Joy
"In writing Mended, Blythe Daniel and Helen McIntosh have found the courage needed to invite their readers to draw close to this intimate portrait of a mother and daughter. The result is a delicate yet powerful glimpse into the lives of two women who have done the hard work of restoration, producing a relationship characterized by bridges rather than walls. The practical insights they offer in each chapter under the headings 'A Mending Thread' and 'Making it Personal' make their book as practical as it is poignant, a gift that mothers and daughters will cherish for generations to come."
Starting Point Director, North Point Community’s Buckhead Church, author of Move Toward the Mess
"The mother/daughter relationship is one of the most sacred and yet often one of the most complicated. In Mended, you’ll find hope and the tools of conversation that you need to repair your broken relationship. Written beautifully and tenderly, this book is a must read. I highly recommend it!"
conference speaker and author of How To Listen So People Will Talk
"As the mother of five daughters I know how important the mother-daughter relationship is and how much cultivating is necessary to keep good lines of communication open. What I love about Mended is the proven path to repair the brokenness and to build upon the beauty that is present. I have known Blythe and Helen for over 20 years and watched as they have lived and grappled with the complicated mother-daughter relationship. I see the mutual love and respect they have for each other. Their passion to make their relationship not only work, but flourish, has propelled them to write this book. And I am grateful. There is practical, godly wisdom that can mend the broken places."
mother to five beautiful daughters and wife to Michael Hyatt, author of New York Times best-selling book Platform
"If you’re ready to deepen and strengthen your relationship with your mother, your daughter, your mother-in-law, your daughter-in-law, Mended offers the practical, biblical guidance and wise, heartfelt encouragement you're looking for. Whether you struggle with past hurts or present disappointments, Helen and Blythe make it clear, 'No one and no relationship is beyond hope.' Each suggestion is supported with Scripture and wrapped in real-life examples drawn from two different generations. So helpful, so hope-filled, so healing!"